Coping Skills and Strategies

Is “Self-Sabotage” Real? A Common Myth Regarding Health Goals

I often hear people say that they are  guilty of “self-sabotage.” They use this in terms of relationships, dieting, work opportunities, and general happiness. It’s the idea of self-defeating behavior that prohibits a person from reaching their own goals. But is “self-sabotage” a real thing? Do we really intentionally keep ourselves from happiness? Most often, upon…

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The Physical Impact of Mental Stress

Early in my career, a man in his 30’s came to me for counseling after spending the better part of a Saturday evening in the emergency room. He thought he had been having a heart attack. “I had all of the typical symptoms that you read about. My heart was racing, I felt a pain…

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How To Give A Nudge Without Being A Noodge

What’s the best way to motivate others into action? Earlier this week, I had a conversation with my neighbor. He, like many business owners, was looking for ways to keep his staff focused and working diligently. He asked me for advice on how to motivate his employees to get on board with his long term…

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Risk Taking VS Risk Making: Developing A Growth Mindset

Most people, by nature, are risk averse. We like a sure thing. This helps us save energy (only acting when we are ensured success), reduce the possibility of embarrassment (you can’t trip and fall on stage if you are seated in the audience), and allows us to stay in our comfort zone. But it also…

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Stomping out ANTS

I remember as a very young child playing outside on a warm summer day. I was fixated on a group of yard toys while sitting on the ground in my summer shorts. Then I felt a sharp sting on my leg. Several more followed. I looked down and realized I was covered in angry fire…

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