Elevate Counseling: What is giftedness

What “Giftedness” Is (And What It Isn’t)

As a psychotherapist who specializes in Giftedness, I can attest to the confusion that abounds regarding the term.  I’m not just speaking to parents of gifted children, but gifted adults as well. Being gifted in a specific area can certainly make some things easier (oh to be able to actually understand those IKEA building instructions !), however, processing the world the way a gifted individual does comes with blessings and burdens.

The Offical Definition Of “Giftedness”

Educators define Gifted and Talented children as “those who by virtue of outstanding abilities are capable of high performance.”

Categories of Giftedness:

  • General Intellectual Ability (IQ)
  • Specific Academic Aptitude (Academic Subjects)
  • Creative or Productive Thinking
  • Leadership Abilities
  • Visual or Performing Arts
  • Psychomotor Ability (Physical Ability)

Typical Characteristics You Might Notice In Gifted Individuals

These traits affect the gifted person in ways far beyond their identified “gifts.”  The intensity and depth in how he or she sees the world has both positive and negative impacts on their emotional, social, academic and spiritual well-being.

Remember… Being Gifted Does NOT Mean:

  • Emotional maturity
  • Not needing to study, practice or prepare to perform well in their area of giftedness
  • The absence of academic struggles or even learning disabilities
  • Personal insight or the ability to foresee roadblocks (ie. “They are so smart. They should have known better.”)
  • An organized backpack and highlighted notes (strong executive functioning skills)
  • Interest in getting A’s in school
  • The same drive to pursue their “gifts” as their parents, coaches or mentors
  • Immunity to “Burn Out”
Giftedness does not preclude a person from having challenges in life. In fact, struggles related to their giftedness are often par for the course.  This is in large part because of how the brain develops. Different parts of the brain develop at different rates. While this is true for everyone, this is more pronounced in gifted individuals.
It’s important to remember that the exceptional abilities of a gifted person are actually the exception in terms of their overall abilities and areas of functioning. 
This means that NORMAL areas of functioning can FEEL like weaknesses and WEAKNESSES can feel like FAILURES to gifted individuals and to those that are working with them.  This is why parents, teachers and gifted people may find themselves holding unrealistic age or developmental expectations.  We may be looking at a GIFTED child’s strength and thinking that ALL PROCESSING should be happening at that level.

A Shift In Mindset

By shifting your expectations to age-appropriate norms, identifying and acknowledging areas of strengths, you can help lower feelings of frustration and help the gifted people in your life develop a sense of personal competence and self-acceptance.  Create a plan for using these strengths to creatively compensate for weaknesses.
Remember, the gifted people in our lives often need us just as much, or even more support, as others struggling with their own challenges.


Jamie Dana

Jamie Dana

Jamie Dana, MC, LPC, helps teens and adults overcome mental roadblocks and achieve their goals to live an elevated life. Specialties include research-based interventions to address stress and anxiety, trauma, self-esteem, eating issues and struggles of the gifted and high-achieving population. For more information about her techniques, services and additional resources to help you succeed, check her out at www.elevatecounselingaz.com or follow us on Facebook and Instagram. You can also Contact her to schedule an initial appointment today